August 8th: Why doing your best as a parent really is the most important job you will EVER have.
As a mother of two (for now) I've had enough time being a mom to realize how important it is to do my best as a mom. I've seen the instant impact on my child's face when I didn't choose my words more carefully. I've seen the disappointment when I didn't look up quick enough and then she has to show me again the thing that she just did.
I also know the impact parental mistakes have had on me, through my own childhood experiences. Being a parent is some big shoes to fill... We shouldn't become parents because we have some jagged hole in our own lives, we should become parents because we want to raise children that will make an impact on the world in some unique way, that only they can. Because everyone here has a purpose, even if we never figure out what that purpose is, we may reach the end of our lives and realize we've served that purpose or we've screwed it up miserably.
A child should never have to take care of a parent or feel that they have to. A child should never have to pick up their broken pieces and put them back together again. Now, I'm not talking about elderly parents here... I'm talking about fully capable ones, ones that continue to make juvenile mistakes when they're in their 40's, 50's and 60's and run like hell from their responsibilities.
We can't live our lives in such a way that when our children get older and need us because of the changes they're going through in their lives, we're a bloody mess.
Loving children is easy. They require lots of love and some require a whole lot of tlc. But since parenting IS the most important job we'll ever have, wouldn't it be nice to see them through until that day when they go off to college or get a job and a place of their own? To look back on those years you spent together under the same roof, through blood, sweat and tears knowing you didn't just do your best- you excelled in parenting. And if and when your child falls down later in life, you can still, wholeheartedly help them and help them get back on their feet again? -Because your motives are in the right place.
I've learned to love big. I've learned that I may be exhausted and cranky but if my kids need me, I can pray for the strength and the Lord will help me through it with my heart in the right place. No kid should have to fight for their parents affection and love but too many of us have and too many do.
So today's confession is, sharing a slice of my wisdom in the parenting department. The repercussions of poor parenting can't be measured until it's much too late. We can learn from the mistakes of those who went before us but let's not make the same ones.
God bless
As a mother of two (for now) I've had enough time being a mom to realize how important it is to do my best as a mom. I've seen the instant impact on my child's face when I didn't choose my words more carefully. I've seen the disappointment when I didn't look up quick enough and then she has to show me again the thing that she just did.
I also know the impact parental mistakes have had on me, through my own childhood experiences. Being a parent is some big shoes to fill... We shouldn't become parents because we have some jagged hole in our own lives, we should become parents because we want to raise children that will make an impact on the world in some unique way, that only they can. Because everyone here has a purpose, even if we never figure out what that purpose is, we may reach the end of our lives and realize we've served that purpose or we've screwed it up miserably.
A child should never have to take care of a parent or feel that they have to. A child should never have to pick up their broken pieces and put them back together again. Now, I'm not talking about elderly parents here... I'm talking about fully capable ones, ones that continue to make juvenile mistakes when they're in their 40's, 50's and 60's and run like hell from their responsibilities.
We can't live our lives in such a way that when our children get older and need us because of the changes they're going through in their lives, we're a bloody mess.
Loving children is easy. They require lots of love and some require a whole lot of tlc. But since parenting IS the most important job we'll ever have, wouldn't it be nice to see them through until that day when they go off to college or get a job and a place of their own? To look back on those years you spent together under the same roof, through blood, sweat and tears knowing you didn't just do your best- you excelled in parenting. And if and when your child falls down later in life, you can still, wholeheartedly help them and help them get back on their feet again? -Because your motives are in the right place.
I've learned to love big. I've learned that I may be exhausted and cranky but if my kids need me, I can pray for the strength and the Lord will help me through it with my heart in the right place. No kid should have to fight for their parents affection and love but too many of us have and too many do.
So today's confession is, sharing a slice of my wisdom in the parenting department. The repercussions of poor parenting can't be measured until it's much too late. We can learn from the mistakes of those who went before us but let's not make the same ones.
God bless
Courtney Brown
And this is why i refuse be "that" parent! You live for your kids not just live with them
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